If you hadn’t already figured it out, a lot of these stem from me personally working through my own shit.
I’ve been thinking about—and pursuing—work-life parallel for a solid decade, but I’m only selling it in the sense that it makes sense to me and I think it might help others who might feel there’s only one game in town (and they don’t like that game).
Yesterday, I said this:
“Everywhere we turn, we see happy, successful people—easily—living their dream lives. Meanwhile, we go through the motions every day in order to pay our bills, incrementally chip away at debt, and hope we’ll get our shit together before it’s too late.”
To which Mark, whose comment some 10 (!) years ago helped light this fire, had this to say:
“Not for nothing, but i don’t view life this way. I kinda feel sorry for those that do. But if that’s the way one looks at life, then one has some thinking and changing to do.”
This is exactly right.
My response to Mark was along the lines of “Sometimes you feel like a nut. Sometimes you don’t.”
So let’s make it real. Skin in the game.
I had a couple really big irons in the fire. Either would have proved an immediate catapult launch in the overall direction I would like my life to go. And it looked like both were almost sure things.
Except they weren’t.
Best I can explain it, it’s like cruising along at 55mph, getting up to almost 100mph on a long, downhill straight, only to slow right back down to 55mph on the other side of the valley. Normal can lose its luster immediately following a flood of hope and blind optimism.
(Not to mention the OTHER metaphor in that last bit.)
So, for the record, Mark is right. If we find the glass half empty, that’s okay. Shit happens, after all. That’s pretty much what I was implying by “Successful You”.
But we should use those situations to think about why we’re in them (reflection) and figure out how to change things for the better (exploration/discovery).
You can’t always get what you want.
But if you try sometimes, you’ll find—you get what you need.